Starting school gives many children feel a mix of excitement and nervousness. For children dealing with anxiety, this transition can be particularly challenging. However, with the right support and strategies, parents can help ease their child’s worries and set them up for a successful school experience. Here are some practical tips for parents to help their children manage anxiety as they prepare for school.
1. Open Communication
Start by talking openly with your child about their feelings regarding school. Ask them what specifically is making them anxious—whether it’s making new friends, academic pressures, or simply the change in routine. Validate their feelings and reassure them that it’s normal to feel nervous before school starts. Let them know that you’re there to support them and that they can talk to you about anything that’s worrying them.
2. Establish a Routine
Children with anxiety often feel more secure when they know what to expect. Establish a consistent daily routine that includes regular bedtimes, meal times, and study times. Practice the morning routine, including getting up at the same time, getting dressed, and packing their school bag. This will help them adjust to the school schedule and reduce the anxiety of the unknown.
3. Teach Coping Strategies
Equip your child with simple, effective coping strategies they can use if they feel anxious during the school day. Breathing exercises, positive self-talk, and visualization techniques can be helpful tools. Practice these strategies together so they feel confident using them on their own. Many children are meeting with Child Therapists/Counsellors to also assist in building positive coping skills.
5. Focus on the Positive
Help your child focus on the positive aspects of school, such as seeing friends, learning new things, and participating in activities they enjoy. Remind them of previous successes and how they overcame challenges in the past. Encouraging a positive mindset can help shift their focus away from their fears and towards the opportunities ahead. By helping our children focus on the positives, builds a bigger perspective and minimizes the all or nothing thoughts.
6. Stay Connected
During the school year, stay connected with your child’s teachers and school counselors. If you notice any signs of ongoing anxiety, such as difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, or reluctance to go to school, reach out for additional support. Teachers and school staff can work with you to create a supportive environment for your child.
7. Encourage Independence
While it’s important to support your child, it’s also crucial to encourage independence. Gradually give them more responsibility, such as organizing their school supplies or planning their homework schedule. This can help build their confidence and reduce anxiety over time.
8. Model Calm Behavior
Children often take cues from their parents on how to react to situations. If you remain calm and composed, even when discussing anxiety-provoking topics, your child is more likely to mirror that calmness. Show them that while anxiety is a normal part of life, it’s something that can be managed.
9. Seek Professional Help if Needed
If your child’s anxiety is severe or persistent, don’t hesitate to seek help from a mental health professional. Therapy can provide your child with additional tools and support to manage their anxiety effectively. Children respond very positively to the therapy process and enjoy the sessions as well.
Preparing a child with anxiety for school requires patience, understanding, and proactive strategies. By maintaining open communication, establishing routines, and teaching coping skills, parents can help ease their child’s anxiety and make the transition to school smoother and more positive. Remember, with your support, your child can develop the resilience and confidence they need to thrive in school and beyond.
